Hi Thomas, thank you for your thoughtful response. I think that when I wrote the article I was in a calm space. I had also processed and decompressed from some of the "little earthquakes" and emotional fizzures of my divorce. So I could look at my situation with compassion and honesty. However I would say there are part that I am still excavating that are painful and sometimes surprising. the desolution of a marriage leaves little landmines that are not always so easy to navigate.